I went to the Gettys show at Flying Saucer last night and, as usual, the band was awesome. The place was packed and most of the band followers I know were there. I managed to stay through one set before a combination of pain and longing made me bolt. The pain was easily explainable (a combination of not enough beer, a bad back, standing up too long and sore ribs from a hacking cough) but the longing part took a bit of introspection (more beer might have helped here too).

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Your RQ is how you look at a given relationship vs. how the other person looks at the same relationship. To figure out your RQ, you need to determine how each side looks at the relationship on a 1 to 5 scale.

5 – Wow
4 – Interested
3 – Worth teasing if no one else is around (or, you’re drunk)
2 – Slightly above contempt
1 – Who?

Now, compare your feelings on the above scale to the other persons…..

5-5 True love
4-4 Dating material
5-3 Frustration
3-3 Fun but no future
1-5 Stalker

So, what’s your RQ???

I have an observation that I hope isn’t too stereotypical and that may be totally wrong….  It certainly isn’t earth shattering or new (even for me – I’ve seen it in action for over 20 years), but it seems to be repeated over and over. Unfortunately, I don’t think most guys have figured it out yet….

How many of you have heard the “nice guy lie”?  What’s the nice guy lie, you ask…  Well, it’s when a girl says “I just want to find a nice guy” or “all of the nice guys are taken”.

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In the 3 Dog Night song ‘One’ it says:

One is the loneliest number that you’ll ever do
Two can be as bad as one
It’s the loneliest number since the number one

I think alone in a crowd is a close third!